The representative from the sending town had suggested that Mickey and I become the educational advocates for the children. This person is someone assigned to represent them in school related educational meetings since it would be a conflict of interest for the state to represent them against another part of the state. Make sense? Anyway, I got a call from our caseworker this morning that she thought we should not be the educational advocates. She was extremely vague as to why, but said it could be “misconstrued” by some others in her department. Misconstrued as what? Caring about the best interest of our children? Wanting to gain the most information that we can for when they are adopted and the full responsibility falls on us? All I can do is shake my head. She did say we could take the classes so at least we would have the same information when we attend all educational planning meetings. I suppose thats something, but I will never understand the state.
We scheduled a visit with Donald for this weekend at the same time as Daffy will be attending her friend’s birthday party. I made the decision that with Donald in the midst of a major transition and off all meds (including homeopathic) that it would be better if Mickey & I visited alone for this weekend. We will plan to bring Daffy next week, hopefully when Donald is slightly more stable.
The reports from the group home so far are that Donald is doing really well adjusting. I know its a very different structure than his previous group home, this facility is a lot more laid back. He isn’t typically the kind of kid that does well in a laid back environment so it will be interesting to see how it goes, but I am happy he is getting a few good days under his belt anyway. I think it will help the staff to have some “good moments” with him before they see his worst.
[All names have (obviously) been changed to protect the privacy of our family.]